Why I’m Not Trying for a Girl

I think I speak for all boy moms when I say the most irritating question we are asked is “Are you trying for a girl?” OMG??? WHY???🙄I know people do not mean any harm by asking, but that doesn’t make it any less irritating, and sometimes infuriating. After 12 years of being asked this question, I will address why I’m not trying for a girl.👨‍👩‍👦‍👦

Let me first start by saying Girls are great!! I’m a girly girl💕! If I were blessed with a daughter, I would be elated. Of course, I had the same mind frame as most of society, I wanted one boy, and one girl (in that order). When AJ (my oldest) was born I was happy that he was a boy. When Ashton (my youngest) was conceived I hoped he would be a girl. But if you want to make God laugh tell him your plans, right?

I was gifted with the BEST BOYS ever💙! So when I’m asked the question, I feel like its implied that my boys are not enough, or I’m missing out on something. Lies! All Lies!! They are perfect! My family is perfect, and just as it should be!! So no need to pity me! My cup is full! There’s no void because I don’t have a girl.

The best part of being a boy mom is being the “Queen of the Castle.” My boys LOVE me. They constantly compliment me. They give thee best hugs, and cuddles. Ashton has asked me to marry him,👰🏾and AJ unfriended a kid because he told him I was hot😆. I know that I will be protected and loved by these two for the rest of my life.👸🏾

Raising them is my honor and privilege. I have been tasked with turning them into men. Not just men, but black men👦🏾. In the world in which we live, I’m frightened at the thought of them not being prepared for the world. The conversations about prejudice alone is not for the meek. That’s why we strive to make sure they experience and understand joy at home, because the outside world is not always as kind or forgiving.

I recently found out that both my boys are Rainbow Babies🌈 They were both born after miscarriages. I believe that everything happens for a reason. I’m supposed to be a #boymom. It’s possible that the angels before them were girls, I will never know. But what I do know is that I have two perfect angels on earth that I adore👼🏾. I’m so grateful for them, and wouldn’t change our family.

So the next time you see a family with all boys or all girls, try not to ask “Are you trying for a _______ ?” or “Do you want a __________?” If they want you to know that information they will tell you. Instead compliment them on how beautiful their family is. Because family IS BEAUTIFUL, no matter what.❤️